• Sat. Dec 2nd, 2023

I must learn to accept people who are not like me… ;)

May 19, 2008

The Kaleidoscope Of Life
Living Together Differently

We tend to gravitate toward people who are most like us, at least in the ways that make us feel comfortable. But life has its way of bringing us into contact with people who challenge us with their differences. It may be an obvious difference reflected in their outward appearance or an invisible but powerful philosophical stance. Even in our closest circle of friends and family, though, there are those that confront us with their different ways of experiencing and expressing life. We can choose to resist, but we can also choose to learn from them and appreciate that they too have a place in the kaleidoscope of life.

As much as we may say that we want peace and quiet and a life without struggle, the truth is that human beings are currently thriving in a world of dualities and challenges. It is how we choose to approach these hurdles that determine if we sail over them, confirming our agility, or trip and end up face down in the dust. And each of us absolutely will and must stumble, and then get up, brush the dust off, and carry on. This is how we learn and grow, developing depth of character and shades of understanding. In a world of dualities, we have trouble defining ourselves without something opposite and can’t discover who we are. Without challenge, there is nothing to do and nothing to discover. That leaves us either in a state of nonbeing or in the state of pure spirit, but as humans, we are spiritual beings experiencing the physical world in all of its startling contrast and beauty.

No matter how spiritual we are, our lives will have challenges. We will always run into people that are different from us, but the true challenge may be in finding ways to be at peace with this process. Rather than give in to the fight-or-flight response that comes from our animal nature, we can find new ways to evolve together into higher, more beautiful expressions of ourselves, realizing, embracing, and celebrating the beauty of diversity and the strength it offers for the future.


This always seems to come bak to haunt me. Aphrodite is perfectly content with a man who only wants her around when his son is not.. because his son is “freaking” out about her. *sigh*

So what is not acceptable in my world is in hers… And now I’ve pissed her off cuz (as usual) I stuck my nose in where it was not welcome. I love her like a sis and I just worry about her. Maybe she is right.. maybe things will be better once this man is divorced (been separated for 2 years). Maybe the son will then accept her. Me? I’m old and bitter and selfish. I wouldn’t wait. But that’s me. She tried to explain her perspective, but I could not comprehend.. and now she is upset with me.

Naturally, as I’m horrible at doing. I contacted this man, without her knowledge or permission, and told him what I thought about what he was doing. You don’t just spend a whole month together and then back off, unless you are getting bored or just not wanting to break the bad news that it wasn’t working out…. I still think he may be passive aggressive. Pushing people away so he doesn’t have to be the bad guy.

But once again, that’s just me. I dunno. I shared my email with Thorik and then I guess her man shared it with her and she in turn made Thorik read it. He didn’t bother telling her that he already had. LOL.

I just need to learn to leave things alone, eh?

That’s what I get for caring too much. *sigh*


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