How to Contact Your Spirit Guides
Nefer Khepri, Ph. D., R. M-T.
Spirit Guides. All of us have them. They are all around us if we could only perceive them. Often confused with angels, they are souls who walk amongst us who are here to help, offer guidance, comfort, and yes – even advice. Just what are these spirits and where do they come from? They are what are known as Spirit Guides and they come from the Realm of Spirit, or the Other Side.
A Spirit Guide, unlike an Angel, was once a human being, like you and I. They lived their life, performed their tasks, died, and crossed over to the Other Side. Some choose to come back, to reincarnate in a new life, in a new place. Others, however, make the choice to remain in Spirit so they can learn and spiritually advance while helping others still living to learn their life’s lessons. This is a Spirit Guide.
Spirit Guides, as former human beings, are well aware of the problems we face in our everyday, mundane lives. They were once concerned with very similar matters. They tend to have their own special areas of expertise, often based on past personal experiences or careers they have had in a past life.
Your Spirit Guide, unlike your Guardian Angel, comes & goes in your life. A Guardian Angel is with you from birth until death. A Spirit Guide, on the other hand, comes into your life when an issue arises that falls under a guide’s field of expertise. So, Spirit Guides often come and go, changing as the situations in your life change, and as you change and grow, you attract new guides to you.
Your Spirit Guide is always there to help you. This is their sole purpose, to offer the living their help and guidance. However, as spirits, they operate on a higher vibrational frequency than mortals do, so the majority of us cannot see them, cannot hear them, and cannot sense their presence.
So, how do we know when a Spirit Guide is trying to make contact with us?
Unless you are fairly intuitive, most of us are not consciously aware of when a Spirit Guide attempts to make contact with us. Think of the random thoughts that occur to your throughout you day. Hmm, no, that’s too much. What about the random thoughts that occur to you in just 3 minutes?
Take this simple test. Try to focus & sustain your thought on one goal:
“I wish to make contact with my Spirit Guide.”
Do this now. I’ll wait right here.
tick …. tick ……. tick …. tock ……… tick ……… tick ….. tick
All right, 3 minutes have passed. How many of you were able to sustain the thought:
“I wish to make contact with my Spirit Guide”
for 3 minutes without having a single unrelated thought enter your head??? I’m willing to bet very few of you were able to do this, unless you already practice some form of meditation or guided visualization techniques.
You see, your brain is like a giant sieve. It processes input continuously while you are awake and even when you are asleep. Unless you perform this simple exercise inside a sensory deprivation chamber, other thoughts are going to occur to you. For example, I also tried this exercise. I do not meditate, however I practice visualization & focusing techniques when I perform spells & readings. Yet, when I did this simple exercise here are some thoughts that occurred to me in ONLY 3 minutes:
my wrist itches
what will I make for dinner?
the air conditioner seems extra loud
I hope my daughter doesn’t interrupt me
someone’s mowing their lawn
You probably had a very similar experience, perhaps not the same thoughts as I (now that would be something!), but I am sure some random thoughts interrupted your focus. This is normal because this is just how the brain works. When this occurs, merely bring your thoughts to focus back on your objective:
“I wish to make contact with my Spirit Guide.”
In time, you will find that you are capable of sustaining this thought for longer periods of time before random thoughts begin to enter your head. When you actually do attempt to make contact with your Spirit Guide, the ability to focus becomes very important.
Do’s and Don’t’s of Spirit Guide Contact –
1) DON’T expect any famous historical personages, dead rock stars, or religious icons to put in an appearance.
All of these cases have been known to happen, but in the first two instances this is usually our ego wishing for contact with such a person like Cleopatra, Michelangelo, John Lennon, Marilyn Monroe, etc … And religious figures; such as, Christ, the Virgin Mary, Buddha, Krishna, and others, can be Guides, but usually this will not be the very first Spirit Guide to make their presence known to you.
2) DO a simple protection ritual (see below) before you begin. This is of vital importance in order to keep spirits of lower vibrational frequencies away from you during your session. Such spirits are often lost on the Earth plane unaware that they are dead, or they could even be demonic in nature. A simple protection ritual will safeguard you against any undesirable spirit encounters.
3) DON’T have any preconceived notions of who or what your Spirit Guide may be. This could lead to a great big disappointment. A client of mine took my Spirit Guide class convinced her guide would be some person of renown from ancient Greece, since that is where her interests lay. Instead, she got a talking beaver!!! Imagine her surprise! However, the beaver had many important things to say and still offers his guidance to her to this day. This is a case of a Totem Animal, which is an Animal Spirit who acts as a Spirit Guide.
4) DO always prepare for the unexpected. Turn the ringer off on the phone, put the volume of the answering machine on zero, lock the door, if others are in the house ask them to please not disturb you for any reason – unless the house is burning down, of course. Make sure you are seated in a comfortable position and that you have pen or pencil and paper handy to write down any impressions or messages you may receive.
5) DON’T share what you are doing with others who are not of like mind. Ridicule and disbelief will undermine your attempts by introducing negative energy into an otherwise very positive and uplifting experience.
6) DO keep a special book set aside to be used as a journal in which you note all of your spiritual encounters. This journal will prove to be an invaluable source of information to you over the coming weeks, months, even years.
7) DON’T expect your Spirit Guide to be able to foretell the future by asking him or her, “when will I win the lottery?” Spirit Guides do not foretell the future unless that was part of their personal expertise while alive. They also will not know what the winning lotto numbers for the upcoming lotto drawing will be. Believe me, I’ve tried this more than once!!
8) DO believe you will make contact. For some, contact occurs with the very first session, for others, it can take weeks, but persistence always pays off, so just stick to it and your Spirit Guide will make him or herself known to you.
A Basic Protection Spell Prior to Making Contact –
First, prepare by making sure you will not be disturbed. Turn the ringer off on the phone, put the answering machine on low volume, lock the door or put a “do not disturb” sign on the door in which you’ll be attempting to contact your Spirit Guides, and go to the bathroom before you begin. You do not want to be disturbed by the urge to relieve yourself.
The materials you need to have with you for every session include:
a comfortable place to sit while meditating. Remember after your session you’ll be writing in this same spot, too.
a blanket (in case you get cold while meditating – this is common)
pen or pencil
paper or notebook
any spiritual or religious Symbols that you wish (optional)
candle and/or incense to help create the “mood” (optional)
Once you have all your items set up the way you want them, if you are using a candle and/or incense, light it first. I really do recommend at least the use of a candle. I use the flame to focus on while I meditate and it helps to create a more spiritual atmosphere. Personally, I do not use incense while meditating just because the scent distracts me, but this is a personal preference. Some people cannot meditate without burning incense, so the choice is yours.
For your candle, you can really use any shape or size. The best colors to use are, in order of spiritual preference:
purple (for higher guidance & protection)
yellow (mental pursuits)
blue (spiritual pursuits)
It does not matter if your candle is scented or not, unless, like me, you find scent distracting. If you do, then don’t use a scented candle.
As you focus on the flame, imagine yourself in a quiet place. You may have a favorite place or somewhere you loved to go as a child that was quiet & secluded. Bring that place to mind and focus on it. It can be anything ranging from sitting under a tree to being in an Egyptian temple (my personal favorite) or anything in between. Just make sure that whatever your imagining includes only you & your surroundings. If you’re imagining your old tree house you had as a kid, don’t also imagine all your childhood friends there with you.
As you have your ideal quiet place in mind gently send out your intention:
“I wish to contact my Spirit Guide.”
Focus again on the flame if you find your mind is wandering. Don’t stop, just re-focus on the flame and continue. As you do, say this simple invocation for Protection: this is of crucial importance. NEVER omit this!
“O holy Mother/Father God
I ask for your protective White Light to surround me & my home.
I ask for your protection at this time.
I open my heart, mind, and spirit to any knowledge
Sent to me by Spirits or Angels of the Light.
Only Beings of Light shall be allowed to enter my sacred space.
No Being of negative or mal intent is allowed to enter.
I open myself to my Spirit Guides & Angels
As I ask for their Guidance & Advice at this time.”
Remain focused upon your candle flame, imagine your special place, and simply sit and wait for your Spirit Guide to arrive.
Please try not to have any preconceived notions of what your Spirit Guide should look like because this can severely limit your experience. One of my students was convinced that her Spirit Guide was a Biblical figure. She was shocked when the Entity who made himself known to her was a 1950s teenager in a black leather jacket who loved to ride motorcycles. You just never know who (or in the case of the Beaver, what) may come through. Some Spirit Guides do not even appear in human form. They may appear as a mist, a ball of light, I had one appear to me as a talking waterfall. Just remember the most important thing is to maintain an open mind and to be receptive and accepting of whoever comes through for you.
Once your Spirit Guide appears, introduce yourself. Even though they already know who you are, it never hurts to use good manners. Then ask them who they are. Wait for a name. One will be provided. Tell yourself you will remember the name so you can write it down once your session is over.
Next, ask your Spirit Guide if he/she has any advice to impart to you at this time. Many times, for this first visit the Spirit Guide simply makes their presence known and won’t have a real message for you. If that is the case, do not despair. Next time you attempt contact your Spirit Guide will have something of importance to say to you.
Once your Spirit Guide has imparted their message to you, be sure to thank them, then will yourself back to your normal state of consciousness.
Now that your meditation with your Spirit Guide is over, once you are feeling comfortable, write down everything you remember about your Spirit Guide. Start with their name, if they told you, then go on to describe as detailed as you can how they dressed. The manner in which a Spirit Guide dresses will give you a lot of information about what type of culture they come from and also information on the time period of their last incarnation. Also be sure to write down anything your Spirit Guide told you, no matter how insignificant it may seem to you now. Later on it may become very important.
Once you have established contact with your Spirit Guide you have established an important connection. As a result, be sure to play close attention to your dreams. You may wish to keep a recorder or journal next to your bed so you can note any details. Spirit Guides and Angels often communicate with us through our dreams because they have direct access to our subconscious through our dreams. Also, at that time our defenses are down. We do not attempt to filter out any strange voices or images in our dreams so our Spirit Guides and Angels have a much easier time contacting us than while we’re awake. When we’re awake our minds are preoccupied with the hustle and bustle of everyday life so our Spirit Guides and Angels have a difficult time breaking through all that interference, but when we’re asleep we are wide open and receptive, so they can much more easily communicate with us through dreams than while we’re awake.
I suggest you keep your entries in a journal for your dreams and meditative sessions so you may want to buy a blank book that you keep just for writing down your sessions with your Spirit Guide. As you continue to practice this meditative method it shall become easier for you and your messages from your Spirit Guide shall become more involved and detailed over time.
The main requirement in connecting with your spirit guides and angels is not psychic ability. The majority of people who write me about questions regarding their spirit guides and angels almost always ask me if they have to be psychic in order to make the connection. The answer is NO.
All you need is a sincere desire to make such a connection, keep an open mind, and above all – be patient. It is very rare for a person to get instant results, but it does happen. I won’t say that it won’t happen to you, but if it doesn’t, please do not lose hope. Keep on trying. Your spirit guides are there waiting to communicate, but if they are silent it could be that they have nothing to say at the time. Also, please remember spirit guides were once people, too. They retain many of the characteristics they had while alive. If they loved to talk while alive, then you may be opening yourself up to constant chatter. However, if they were shy in life, then you may have to work a bit harder at getting them to come forward and begin communicating with you on some level. Just be patient, hang in there, and know that you are always surrounded by loving and protective energies.