Trying to help, trying to heal, trying to guide, doing anything before you love yourself and are in a good place mentally and physically could harm you and could significantly harm the people you are trying to help.
This is so important.
I find myself repeating myself so often about this, that I’m going to make it a blog and share it instead of re-writing it every time! *grin*
An empath must always love themselves and be healthy before helping others.
I know. Not everyone feels this way. I know that some people help themselves by helping others, but I think that when they help others before helping themselves, they are hiding from their own needs, from their own learning experiences, from allowing themselves forgiveness and love.
Yes. Of course it’s going to feel good to help others. Especially when you are down, depressed, angry, sad, lonely, etc. Helping others is an instant high and it’s wonderful.
This is where it is going to upset some of you. You are helping others so you don’t have to face helping and loving yourself.
There, I said it. Argue all you want. It rang true to you, if you are in tune with yourself.
Or, it made you angry.
So now you must ask yourself.
Why did it make you angry?
Yes, it’s important to help people, but what good are you doing yourself? You can help other’s while unhealthy (mentally or physically) and then you’ll get that natural high, feeling good for a while until your next low and you’ll have to start over again Continually helping others is good, don’t get me wrong, what’s NOT good is the cycle you are in where you aren’t ever helping yourself. You are hiding from the truth. You can’t handle the truth. You will never get better if all you ever do is help everyone else.
That’s not the way to heal one’s self.
And guess what,
YOU are worth it.
YOU deserve happiness.
YOU deserve good health
YOU deserve peace.
And yes, YOU deserve love.
ALL the time, not just when you’re helping others.
You do so much when you help others when you’re at your lowest:
imagine what you can do if you heal and love yourself first?
7 thoughts on “An empath must always love themselves and be healthy before helping others”
Very good stuff Kris. I find that if something upsets or angers me, then that is probably what I need to look at within myself. :-) nothing about this upset or angered me. At the moment, I grinned reading it, because it is very much true. ,Thank you for the great blog and reminders.
Empaths must not substitute the satisfaction of helping others for the inner peace they would feel from healing themselves.
You always know what to say to help it all make sense. Thank you for speaking your truth.
Thank you for this. Especially the end.
Thankyou for this.Love.
this is very wise-thank you
Well, damn…there it is, all up in my face and I can’t deny it! I love helping others, it makes me feel great, and I don’t love myself because I don’t think I deserve it. Gonna keep reading so I can love myself!